How am I doing with the Groovy Mum challenges this week?
1. Body – How are you sleeping? Do you qualify as sleep-deprived? Are you a mum to a baby who just isn’t sleeping through yet? What toll is that taking? Do you have older children creeping into bed with you? What does your bed look like? Is it comfortable and supportive enough? Could you give your bed a makeover in some way perhaps with scented pillows or a colourful bedspread? Could you have a nap at some point in the day? How can you ensure you get better quality sleep?
To be honest, I don’t think I have had enough sleep for years. I work best getting up at about 10am and staying up till around 2am. That does not really fit in with having children. Those days are gone. My children are now at school and bedtime routines are a battle. My daughter has a habit of creeping into my bed too. As she is a wriggler, the quality of rest for myself is not that great. I have a kingsize bed but she can fill it all by herself with her ever-moving arms and legs. It is all far from ideal.
This week, I bought a double bed and put it up one of the children’s rooms. I have started at routine of going to bed in that room to settle my daughter and then creeping back to my own bed when she is asleep. This is working well so far and my sleep is undisturbed and lovely. I bought new bedding for the double bed and also some pink princess stuff to encourage my daughter to stay put. So far, so good.
As I live most of my life tired all the time, this is a much bigger step to getting my groove back than it might appear.
2. Mind – Our children have reward charts and get stickers when they do well? Could you play with this idea and create your own chart or adapt a child’s one? What are those things that you know you should do but don’t seem to get around to? How can you motivate yourself? In my continuous attempt to get mums to say good things about themselves, why not tell me what you deserve a reward for?
I am sure someone must produce reward charts for Mums. If not, there is a huge gap in the market for someone. If you know of any companies that produce them, let me know. I deserve a reward like every Mum I know for sticking with it when the going got tough. I also am proud that chaotic or not, I tell my children every day that I love them.
3. Spirit – Is the spirit willing? You can respond to this one in whatever way you see fit.
The spirit is very willing to change. It might be a scaredy-cat spirit sometimes and it might get frustrated with a too tired body but yes, the spirit is ready to come out fighting.
4. Blog – Have you attended a blogger event? Have you met any bloggers in the flesh? Would you like to do? Why is that?
I am speaking at Britmums Live so I hope some of my lovely Groovy Mums and other blogger friends will be there to hold my hand. It is quite daunting to be on the same agenda as famous and talented people. Also, I worry that some attendees are looking forward to meeting me and may well be disappointed with the reality that is me. Ah well, time will tell. Funnily enough, I did sort of ask myself to lunch with a blogger this week and she did not exactly run for the hills. I should learn from this.
5. It is the creator of Winnie the Pooh’s birthday this week. So, as a bit of fun, why not work out which Winnie the Pooh character you are most like and why? It might help you to discover what is great about you and also the things that you could usefully change.
I have always felt an affinity with Eeyore. If you read my blog, the reasons should be obvious.
6. The Big Question – How is your sex life? Oh, I know we are not supposed to talk about religion, sex and politics but you know me, I like breaking the rules. So how are things in the bedroom (or your venue of choice)? Has sex become a chore? Do you find it difficult to make time for sex? Are you too exhausted for sex? Have you managed to spice up your love-life? Be brave and reveal all on your blog or just do some quite reflecting on this issue.
I asked my husband about this and it is fantastic but does not happen often enough. My own view is that most men would say that they don’t get enough sex. It sort of goes with the gender (yes I know that is terribly sexist). Fatigue, worries and responsibilites are far from sexy. There is also that concern about the children hearing or entering the bedroom. However, 14 years in we are still at it and loving it so I guess that is very positive. I don’t feel a need to spice up our love-life either. It is just a case of finding or making more time for it. Of course, going back to challenge 1, now that we have evicted our daughter from our room, I imagine things just might improve anyway on the lurvving front.
Tomorrow, I will do my update on how I am getting my va-va voom on other fronts.
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Don’t worry you don’t have to tell us about your love-life or do the challenges. Any mum wanting to revive her life a bit can take part in her own individual way.