I’m A Bit Of A Mixed Bag

Well, this week I took a break from Groovy Mums and let the rather wonderful Chloe over on the Our Pea Green Pod blog assert her right to challenge the masses.

I do like Groovy Mums but we all need a break and I have enjoyed mine.  In fact, so much so that I am happy for other mummy bloggers to host this blog hop if the fancy takes you.

You can read all about Groovy Mums here.

Chloe set some marvellous challenges and here are my responses.

Body – Your Sunshine Rituals

What are your rituals? How do you keep safe & indulge? If you don’t indulge then do! Treat your self & your skin & keep it feeling great too!

I don’t really have rituals of indulgence.  Does that say that I don’t value myself enough?  I think it might to be honest.  Too often in life, I am like Mavis Riley in Corrie of yesteryear saying “Well, I’m not really sure”.  I hate that trait in myself.  So indulgence here I come.  Groovy Mums shows you change is possible.   All suggestions of how I should indulge are very welcome.  I am told my skin is good and the hair used to be but the fingernails disappeared at about the age of 8 and only come back in times of major achievement.

2. Mind – That Niggling Feeling

This week I quite simply want to encourage you to tick one of these silly little things off your list & feel the satisfaction that comes with the knowledge that there is one less thing to do! For now…!

The break from Groovy Mums has freed me up to do other stuff including all the date juggling that May and June seems to present.  I also got the passport photographs done for my eldest for his secondary school bus pass, I produced Jubilee bunting  and returned the form for my youngest’s seaside trip.  Chloe is right that ticking things of lists does make you feel good.

3. Spirit – Memories & Legacy

How would you like your spirit to live on? What stories would you like to share with your children that you haven’t all ready? How do you want your children to remember you? Why not share a favourite memory with us? What else would you like to be your legacy?

I think my spirit is the best part of me.  Let’s face facts.  The body is past it and the mind can be incredibly dozy at times.  Despite these things, my spirit can be lovely and sassy at times, ribald, passionate, all sorts of things I very much like.  My spirit will live on in my sensitive and bright eldest boy, in my stroppy, creative and giggly daughter and in my healing and comic youngest son.

I think I already share stories with my children.  I am a big talker and story-teller.  That is my own mother’s spirit living on in me.

I would like my epitaph to perhaps include something like “She cared for others, she kicked ass, she made a difference”  Or perhaps I should just settle for “She took her clothes off but all in the name of good blogging”.

The main thing that I want for my children to remember about me is that I loved them always and fought for them when necessary.  Also to feel that they did not have to keep battling for my approval.

My most recent fave memory is walking around London on my last trip and feeling young and full of possibilities again after a long bleak period. 

I want my writing to be my other key legacy.  That novel will come, I promise.

4. Special Days – Diamonds & Rings

Could you get involved in some activities nearer to home? Are you taking part in any of the national celebrations this summer? Could you throw a tea party? Could you have a rave? What event, big or small, could you get involved with that would boost morale in your area?

I am very busy over coming weeks and months.  We have Jubilee concerts, bun sales,  street parties, art events, special lunches, hog roasts and more to fit in.  I will be taking the children to see the Olympic Torch.  I am no Royalist and not sporty at all but I do like a bit of a do.

5. A Big Question – Do You Do Enough?

Of course, it is natural as a parent to want to do as best by our children as we can, but, honestly do we really think we are doing enough? Or are we doing too much? How can we tell that what we are doing is right? I’m not sure I have the answers but I’d love to hear you discuss…

My view is that there are no perfect people and that applies to parents too.  The problem is that I set too high standards for myself so constantly fail at things.  I find it difficult to get the balance right between my needs, my husband’s needs, my Dad’s needs and the individual children’s needs.  I don’t want to lose a sense of self because I had children but then think maybe that is the right thing to do if I am to totally commit to this motherhood business.  Plus I analyze things way too much like Miss Chloe herself.

Over to you.  Have a go at the challenges and see the thinking behind them by clicking http://ourpeagreenpod.blogspot.co.uk/2012/05/groovy-mums.html

2 thoughts on “I’m A Bit Of A Mixed Bag

  1. Loving your response to the challenges! 🙂 I totally feel you on the last point about motherhood – setting ourselves up to fail. I also find the balance difficult especially on a day to day basis. I’m sure that there is never a right answer except to live, learn & do our best. You sound very positive of late – I love it! Do go & indulge a little & enjoy your upcoming jubilee & Olympic celebrations! 🙂

  2. I too agree with your last comment so very true and getting the balance seems impossible some days. Hope you enjoy the olympic torch, we are going to see it as well, and one of the Dad’s in the school is actually running with it so is going to bring it in to show the kids, I am trying every which way to think of a reason to be in school that day!

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