As a mum, have you lost a sense of self? Feel way older than you actually are? Wish you were not just labelled as a “housewife” or whatever but actually were valued for what you contribute to the world?
That is where I was about a year ago and I am by no means out of the woods yet. A group of us got together via Twitter and blogging to support each other on the unknown journey ahead. We have laughed and we have cried in the last year or so. I think we have worked out various things along the way.
1. That you have to be proactive if you want to change your life. Nobody is going to do it for you although as you start to make changes, many will respond positively and support you.
2. That if you feel a bit down at heel and knackered, you are so not alone so you already have a team of ready-made kindred spirits out there. You just need to find them.
3. That sometimes it will be a case of two steps forward and one step back. That is OK. You are still moving in the right direction and this is not a race to the finish line.
4. That it is probably healthier to say when you are struggling than to hide under the duvet or scuttle off after the nursery and school run.
5. That life events may throw up some painful curveballs. That is just the way of things. You can still move forwards.
6. That a woman’s lot can be a happy one but you will have to fight for it.
So I am relaunching what we called Groovy Mums as after the loss of my Dad, I need to take myself in hand again and get a grip.
Who knows? There may be other kindred spirits out there as well as the vintage ones. Let’s rock and roll!
So a little run down of the groovy stuff in my life right now.
1. I am now working for BritMums, the UK’s largest parent blogger network doing social media so you may well see me around on Twitter, Facebook and Google+ for them. I am also having fun pinning images on their Pinterest board.
Now before you think I am blogging glitterati, read back some of my older posts from around September last year when I was unemployed and living in a small village going slowly out of my mind. Groovy Mums can work in very unexpected ways for you.
2. I am making the time to read lots of blogs and that is helping me to make new online friends who are being a great support in the tricky days of grief for my Dad.
3. I actually sent a sexy text to my husband the other day. This does not happen usually. We are more of the “I love you” “Ditto” text merchants. The text backfired quite spectacularly. You see sometimes when you get your groove back, it is difficult for your loved ones to catch up with the new you.
4. I have just started a healthy eating plan. I need to take care of the physical me to get the mental and spiritual me on the right track.
Over to you. If you are making life changes or wondering if you should and you blog about it, I would love you to link up below but far more important is that you seize the day whilst it is yours.
You can find me on Twitter as @kateonthinice and when I tweet on what I am banging on about here, I will use hashtag #getgrooving Hope you do too.
Same time next week?
All sounds good! Likewise, I too have started a new healthy eating plan to try and get over a rough physical and emotional patch. Let’s hope it does both of us some good! And a bit of grooving is always a good thing 😀
All the best. Day two going well with me. If you blog about your life changes big or small, feel free to link up
I’m sorry to hear about your dad. Like this initiative. I’m in a bit of a rut too. Have started blogging (http://motherdistracted.blogspot.com) but need a kick up the pants to keep at it. My kids are nearly 5 and 4 so I am still busy with the school runs. Worked in marketing for over 20 years and realised the other day I don’t even know where my CV is! Am 50 in 2014 so am a older (understatement!) mum. Hubby works away a lot. Just wondering “what next”?
It’s so tought particularly if you have had a career or strong interest before having children I think. I am on the school runs too and again need to rewrite my CV. Hope you blog and link up. Will check you out anyway. Welcome aboard
You make the “Secret” sound like hogwash! Well done on all that you have achieved!
Have to look into this “Secret” thing but here’s to us all moving forward positively whatever route that takes
Wow – this post hugely resonates! So sorry to hear about your dad, I can’t believe it is now 10 years since mine died – but I can say it does get easier, but I still miss him. Looking forward to joining you in being a groovy mum!
Thank you for your thoughts. It is odd in that you have to be sad because you do want to remember them. I do hope you join in with #getgrooving and if you blog about it link up.
I love the idea of this Kate…. I’m a new mum to a 9-week old boy as well as adjusting to living in a totally new area so it’s true to say I’m feeling a little lost and can relate to your post. I think I need to take heart from point number 2 and find my kindred spirits!
9 weeks old and even thinking about getting your groove back is amazingly wonderful. Blog about it and link up. Welcome aboard
FFS…wrote a lovely long comment then lost it in a fit of tab hopping! (*sigh*). ANYWAY, thank you so much for the blog – it really resonated with me. I’d love to join your gang and it could be just the motivation I need to get myself together a bit. It’s been a gruelling few years – new baby, mum died in January, then left legal career after a 6 month losing battle with my manager on returning from maternity leave – but the Time Has Come, I feel. Just no idea what to do about it! I’m also 3 months pregnant with No. 2 which, while lovely, does limit my options somewhat. Or maybe a change in perspective is all that’s required, and that is where tapping into the blogging community can help, I am sure. My rather feeble attempt at blogging started and stopped last year around the time mum died but you have inspired me to kick it off again: http://ordinarysoup.blogspot.com. Will watch your tweets and blogs with interest…
So good to hear from you and have commented on your blog. Empathise so much. Looking forward to getting to know you.
Ooh, Kate! Glad this is up and running again. What did your husband do when you sent the text? Would LOVE to know. Great post. Polly x
Me too 😉
Glad to have you back too Polly.
Husband did not respond as I thought he would. Will that do?
LOL, maybe you will get one back this week, once he has had time to give it some thought.x
No, that won’t do! I’ve shared some very personal stuff with you lately, so spill!! 🙂 I think Lynsey wants to know too.
Third and final comment – SO PLEASED GROOVY MUMS AND GROOVING KATE IS BACK!!!!!
Here you go! Don’t think I’m ready yet!
I am pleased that you are though! x
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I have been making major changes in the last year – and blogging about them has proved to be really cathartic. ill have to catch up on your posts later, its bed time now or the school run becomes frightening! 🙂 But I agree with what you said, a supportive group is a real find! Here is a recent post on online friends